Thursday thoughts




Well my sisters, we have come into another year.  Wow!  2015 is here.  I don’t do resolutions, but mainly do reflections like I always do.  Thinking about the past, how far I have come, how can I improve professionally and personally, things like this.

I like to play on words.  Ok I just like words.  And this year will the year of…drumroll please…INTENTIONALITY!

Ladies, we must be intentional in our efforts towards our goals, dreams, accomplishments.  We can’t say, “I’m going to take a French class at the community college” and not make it happen.   That is not intentional; that is wishful thinking.

Wishful thinking produces a list of excuses. “Oh, I will do it when___________” or “Right now is not a good time” or “I don’t have enough money” or “They are better than me.” You get my drift my sisters.

All of this is stemming from excuses I had been making about returning behind the chair on a part-time basis (remember that cosmetology license I told you about!).

“I don’t have a clientele.”

“I don’t know here I am going to work.”

“But the kids will need me.”

“I am rusty.”

“I will be away from home.”

“I’ll miss hanging with my girlfriends.”

Guess what?  These don’t even make sense.  You see, when there is a passion burning in your heart, even when you try to ignore it, the dumbest, I mean the greatest excuse (yeah, right) is not going to fly.  Excuses don’t carry any weight and keeps us from pursing that goal/dream/accomplishment hence becoming complacent.

Well I have decided to return to the salon and it feels right.  It is not just about making extra money.  It’s about connecting with other sister-friends, laughing, crying, joking, sharing our lives and stories that promote unity, healing and straight BEAUTIFULNESS, inside and out!

My sisters, in order to be intentional without the excuses, first understand excuses are merely stumbling blocks as well as lies.  Second, once you decide you are not falling for the trap, set measurable goals.  If they seem unachievable at the moment, make them smaller or find simpler alternatives to getting it done.  Third, put your plan in action.  Be sure to write out everything.  Your ideas, thoughts, goals, steps, prayers.  EVERYTHING.

Let me say that I am very excited and has always enjoyed  doing hair.  Check this out.  I have 5 potential clients.  I already knew 3 years ago where I would be working.  The kids are going to be fine as always.  I’m far from rusty (lies!).  And I will always have the opportunity to hang with my friends.

See those excuses mean nothing and cannot stop me from the beautiful destiny set before me.  They can’t stop you either my lovely and gorgeous sister!

Peace and love,


Now, what excuse are you going to stop making in 2015?




First I want to thank you all for allowing me to breathe for a few. I really needed it to regroup and refocus.

Second, life has a way of showing you YOU need to regroup, to regain a new perspective. Perhaps that is the meaning of life…to grow into a new perspective. It brought me closer to my God, my family and myself.

So without further ado, let me explain “getting closer to myself.” I was laying in bed early one morning, thinking about things that totally did not have to do with one or another. Reinvention. Ahh, yes! Reinvention of self came to mind. Sometimes I feel as though I have been doing that from time to time over the last 7 months, but at a slow crawl. Indecision and uncertainty had been the major culprit.  During that period of breathing, I learned that in order to overcome that, intentionality is the mighty weapon against uncertainty and indecision. Oh, let me add, procrastination needs a dose of intentionality as well!

I need to be intentional about setting realistic goals to make it happen. Oh wait. That’s not all with intentionality. YOU HAVE TO ACT, MY SISTER! Saying and doing are two different things.  Action is key!

Now my reinvention plans (as of today) include:
1. Sewing a new wardrobe, vintage/retro-inspired with a modern twist. I miss sewing!
2. Learn basic graphic design to make T-shirts.
3. Workout to tone my muscles and to maintain mental health. I have noticed that this 45-year-old body needs it.  Plus exercise that you like does wonders for the mind.
4. Re-enter the cosmetology field. As a stylist, makeup artist and instructor. With all the things my blog stands for, what a better place to be! This is a skill set that I truly enjoy. Please help me be accountable as I will help you as well!

Serving my community and my church are highly important to me, however, REINVENTION is important as well because it is for me, reinvent the beauty that lies within me. Reinvent the beauty that lies within you, my gorgeous sister!

Remember, FIRST, it has to have meaning to you, no one else. SECOND, it has to speak to your heart. And THIRD, it has to have a beautiful outcome, of course. Nothing ugly coming out of here, right girlfriend!

So my sisters, what are your plans for your intentional reinvention?